Thank you for popping in for a visit today! Raymond says hello too… he hasn’t been on here much lately, but that is because he doesn’t really like having his picture taken very much… unless he is in a good mood, which he isn’t at the moment. This I think, is partly due to the fact that his downstairs family has not been letting him in so much (as in allll the time we’re not home!) and also because he’s not very well. He has had bung eyes for weeks now and when KB took him to the vet she got some drops, but he has been being sick more frequently and we’re a bit concerned about the poor wee mite, so please send him some healing thoughts, he’s in bed under the covers sleeping the day away right now, so he’ll definitely receive them!
I’ve loved reading the huge amounts of comments you have been leaving in response to my last two, more thought-provoking posts! I love hearing people’s thoughts on things (unless they are discriminating and unkind, but none of you lovelies would leave mean things like that!)… Right now I’m in a very “thinky” place in life which is filtering into my blog which right now is no longer a “look what I made!” place to visit!
Well…. A little bit “look what I made!”
In my counselling training we are subjected to a lot of personal growth…. some enforced and some just happens naturally when you are subjected to the new experiences that working in a field like that brings. A subject that pops up regularly and is so important is self esteem……….
Self esteem is so vital isn’t it? Having a healthy self image is the foundation to living a fulfilled and happy life…….
A lot of people, especially these days, place their self worth and self esteem in “having”….. money, clothing, great hair, a thin body, lots of friends, cars….. the list goes on and on and on and on and on and on and on…… All these things that we put in place around us that distract us from what is happening on the inside.
I get quite upset about the way society and the media treats us women, (and men too, but I’m not focussing on them here) we are smothered by “ideals” and if we don’t live up to them, we are lacking in some way. This is affecting our young girls especially, and eating disorders and body image issues are spreading like viruses. What was once a white, middle class problem is now a problem for all cultures and socio-economic groups, as Western ideals for the perfect woman spreads further.
I was in the library the other day and picked up a book called “what’s happening to our boys?”…. I can’t remember the author, but she writes about teenage boys growing up in New Zealand and the pressures they are facing, the need to look like this, have that, wear those labels…. that’s what their esteem and identity is based on these days and that sounds hard! They are asking their parents for all this stuff and the parents are being driven mad by this, but we have allowed as a culture, for this to happen.
What gives you self esteem?
What makes you proud to be you?
I’d love to know as we are all so unique….. I know for me, a big healing took place within, when I managed to pull my mind out of the craziness that is our culture and it’s ideals! I discovered that it is so much more rewarding to base my self worth on what I deemed worthy, not some unachievable goal that is so impossible, I’m going to fail no matter how hard I try….. (for example, having a BMI equal to Victoria Beckham) My self worth is now based on creating beauty with my hands, nourishing myself and my partner with healthy and delicious food, providing a safe space for others to heal within and probably most importantly, managing my emotional responses to life and maintaining a peaceful inner world. And what a difference that has made….
It can be hard, bringing our thoughts into alignment with our best interests, forcing the ideas of the collective consciousness out of our mental space, but practice makes perfect, and when we question every thought and idea that we hold, and understand where they were created and why we think them, things start to unfold…..
So! What do you love about you! Your self care and self love will inspire everyone who reads your comment too, so talk your beautiful selves up!
And on to the crochet….. (Oh how I love crochet!) I made this beautiful pot holder (instructions in a link on the side bar!) to add to my collection of ornamental pot holders hanging above my stove…. I made this one bigger than the others by one round by mistake, but I really like it a bit bigger and it’s not sagging from the weight too much!
I added a picot edging to make it a bit different to the others as well, and I love it, it looks quite alien-like…..
I’ll show you the wall when I’ve made a few more!
OK then, I hope you enjoyed your visit today! I’ve got the morning off and I’m off to continue with my knitting…. It’s all in garter stitch which is getting a bit boring, but I’ve noticed that my right arm isn’t getting sore, so I’m thinking my purling techniques need a tweak before I give myself terminal RSI! I’ll reveal the project soon!
Have a beautiful day today,
Lots of love from Alice and Raymond XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX